Hopeless Romantic, Part 2

In my last post, I explained how I have been cursed with the affliction of being a hopeless romantic. I simply cannot help myself. No matter how much others may tell me I am not grounded in reality, I still long for and expect to find that special person who is going to kindle a romantic spark within me that will burn brightly for years to come.

And, I began to expound on the 12 key indicators that I have observed that are present in a relationship that is truly romantic. They are those actions, attitudes, and responses that make your heart swell in your chest more than your cock swell in your pants. They are those thing that show that, even when he pulls out, you still have him inside (there you go again, rolling your eyes at me).



I presented the first four romantic indicators in the last post. They were (1) The Romantic Setting, (2) The Romantic Kiss, (3) The Way Their Faces Brighten Around Each Other, and (4) Playful Intimacy and Flirting. Today, we will continue with the next four.

(5) Obvious Comfort With Each Other

When two guys first start dating, there is some sense of awkwardness that is inevitable. But, as romance begins to flourish, that awkwardness quickly evaporates. In its place is a growing comfort with one another, as they become more familiar with each other. And that comfort can be very romantic to see.



This comfort can be expressed in many ways. It can be as simple as leaning against your boyfriend's shoulder....





It can be seen in romantic hugs where one guy has his arm enveloping his boyfriend, as if he would be as close as a shirt against him...





Or in the casual hug, almost an afterthought, it seems so natural to hold him close...



And, of course, it can be seen in the comfort and complete lack of self-consciousness being naked together....

(6) The Extra Touch - The Hair

When two guys are in love, there are small, almost subconscious things they do that are very romantic to see. One of those is simple touch. When you are with the guy you have fallen for, you want to touch him, not only sexually, but even casually, just as a quiet reminder that you are nearby, that you are his, that you share something special that nobody else besides you two will have with each other.



As I started to think about these casual touches, I started to notice two places that romantic couples tend to touch each other (besides that place, of course). I'm talking in the realm of the G-rated here. The first of these might not be one you would immediately expect, but the more I observe, the more I believe it to be true. That is, when someone is feeling romance toward his man, he will often touch or rub or play with his boyfriend's hair.



I am not entirely certain why we feel this compulsion to do this or even why it seems so romantic, but it obviously permeates our romantic ideals, as evidence by the familiar phrase "running your fingers through his hair." There is just something about that simple touch that can communicate an intimacy that makes the romantic smile.

(7) The Extra Touch - The Hand

The other "extra" touch that is common to romantic couples is touching or holding one another's hands.



This is another one of those that makes it very obvious whether or not a porn is between boyfriends or casual sex partners. The guys who have feelings for each other will often seek out their partners' hands to touch or hold. I think there is a mental connection that we make that something that is ours we hold in our hand. It's a protective instinct that parents feel toward their children, and it is something that is drilled into us from our early years that touching someone's hand communicates to them that they are special, that you are watching out for them.



This is why I can see the biggest, hairiest leather daddies (i.e. - people I would never be attracted to sexually) walking down the street holding hands and still it brings a big smile to my face and makes that romantic inside of me feel very happy.

(8) The Way One Guy Looks at the Other

We've all seen it. It's the twinkle that a guy gets in his eyes when he stops and looks at someone he is in love with.



It's a look of happiness, satisfaction, perhaps adoration, but always romantic.









And, another time this can be very romantic is during sex. All of us who like to bottom have undoubtedly had a moment or many where we felt closer to the guy we loved when he was on top of us than nearly any other moment ever. It's that fusing of bodies that gives a physical expression to emotion in a way possibly nothing else can, and the feeling of happiness that washes over you in those moments goes beyond what you ever thought it could. How could someone who has experienced that not be romantic?

That covers the first eight of the twelve romantic indicators. If you are not feeling like doing a little something extra for that special guy in your life yet, I'm worried about you, but there's still a chance to light that spark....click here for the third and final installment of this series!