Previously (and somewhat recently), I have posted the first two installations of my thoughts on being a hopeless romantic. It is easy for us to look at a couple and recognize instantly the presence of romance. But what is it specifically that causes our hearts to flutter and smiles to reach our faces even if only watching from a distance? I have observed 12 key indicators that, in various combinations, are nearly always present when a romantic couple interacts with one another.
In the first post I discussed the initial four indicators: (1) The Romantic Setting, (2) The Romantic Kiss, (3) The Way Their Faces Brighten Around Each Other, and (4) Playful Intimacy and Flirting.
In the second post I presented the next four: (5) Obvious Comfort with Each Other, (6) The Extra Touch - Hair, (7) The Extra Touch - Hand, and (8) The Way One Guy Looks at the Other.
Today I conclude this excursion into sentimentality with the final four indicators of romance.
(9) The Tenderness of Their TouchHave you ever shared a moment with the guy you love, where you just stopped and gently ran your fingers along the profile of his face, realizing how lucky you were to have this guy next to you?
(10) Sweet Actions
When romance is in bloom in a relationship, there is a tenderness that infuses itself into the actions and words of the couple, as if they have discovered the most beautiful flower, and they are afraid to damage it through any sort of rough handling.
This tenderness can be seen in that light peck on the cheek....
Or it can be expressed in that brief, meaningful pause when your lips are so close but not yet touching...
It is the way a guy will hold his man close and lovingly kiss his neck....
Or the reassuring intimacy of that tender touch while you sleep...
These are things that cause the romance to bloom ever brighter.In romance, it's not really the big things that keep the "spark" alive (grand, candlelight dinners and the like), though they can certainly help. But it's really the little, sweet, thoughtful things that bring two people closer each day. It's that moment when you spontaneously show affection to your boyfriend in public, knowing he will act embarrassed but inside will love it...
Or it's the little nibble on his ear, perhaps not really paying attention to what he is trying to show you but letting him know he is irresistible to you....
It can be when you shower together as you run your hand along his body.....
Or the playful and seductive wandering of your hand here...
or here...
(11) ProtectivenessAs the romantic couple grows in their understanding and appreciation of the value of what they have together, they work to protect that relationship. In a relationship where trust and honesty are not what they should be, this can express itself in a jealous possessiveness. But in a healthy relationship, a romantic protectiveness can communicate volumes to one another.
(12) Lost in Each Other
Physically, this protectiveness is seen in hugs probably more than anywhere else. In a more casual or random sexual encounter, you might hug the person you are with, but when it is someone for whom you feel that deep passion and intense excitement, you find yourself wanting to elongate your arms so they can wrap further around him, as if you would envelope him completely and never let go.
It can be expressed subtly, wrapping your leg around his....
And it can express without words your support of him, that he can fall and know you will be there to hold him up....
To round out this list of romantic indicators, I mention one that seems to be the zenith of romance. It is those moments when you are so overcome with your love and passion for that one person in your life who surpasses all others, that you completely lose yourself in him. The rest of the world may fall apart and you won't notice, because you and he are so intimately and intensely connected.
Obviously, these particularly special moments often occur during sex, when the emotional connection is paired up with the most intimate physical connection...
But, however it is expressed, it is wonderful to experience, and it is one of the reasons I will always be a hopeless romantic.
Monday, August 07, 2006
Hopeless Romantic, Part 3
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7 comments:
Oh how I have loved these posts...I really am missing out on alot.
Being a "hopeless romantic" is beautifully romantic, but never hopeless. Wonderful pictures, and a great site!
Sexbox...
I'm kinda glad I'm done with these, because I was starting to become very discontent being single! :)
gaytwogether....
Thanks for the compliment! Of course I meant "hopeless" in the sense that I'll always be a sucker for romance, no matter what the bitter jaded queens around might say :) lol
A beautiful, insightful look into your thoughts. I am well into my 60's and do agree completely with you summary. Wish I were several years younger--I would apply for the position as your life's fulfillment. And such beautiful pictures to illustrate your thoughts. BRAVO!!
Bob,
Thanks for the kind words!
I loved reading this article. It describes me very well, I may be young but I do know that there has to be more. All those people parading around, pretending to be something they're not just to have crappy sex. but how do I know it's crappy? Here we are, all of us, basically alone just circling each other, all searching for that slightest hint of a real connection. Some of look in the wrong places, some just give up because they are thinking to them selves that "there is no one out there for me". But all of us we keep trying over and over again because every once in a while two meet and there's that spark. And maybe all they see at first is the physical attraction, but making love is when two people become one. And for those literal people, although not physically possible, we still try, which is the most important aspect. That is what we all want, is that miracle of finding the one that can bring us the same pleasure without requiring physical connection. which brings me to my point, the role playing the fetishes, it's all crappy sex, there must be more.
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